How healthy is your relationship?

Try this little quiz and find out!

On the five point scale rate which answer feels most applicable to your relationship with your partner.



How did you score?

A relationship is a living and dynamic entity that is the direct result of two individual people coming together. A relationship is continually evolving and developing according to how it is influenced by our behaviour and intentions towards our partner. First steps in improving a relationship is to acknowledge the health of it, to build awareness, and to understand the strengths and weaknesses you and your partner both bring to it.

Wherever you scored on the self assessment quiz, these practical tips can help you to further enhance these 5 key elements of your relationship.  We encourage you to read them and pick a couple to use regularly over the next 3 months.  Note the progress you make!

Here are some tips for improving your relationship:


  1. Allow the speaker to express their thoughts, feelings and wants as well as what they do not want.
  2. The listener must try to listen deeply to their partners thought feelings and wants.
  3. Come to a shared understanding. Acknowledging your partners viewpoint even if you don’t agree.


  1. Dedicate regular times to be together. For example, a morning coffee before work, one evening a week where you share a meal
  2. Practise showing your partner affection. For example, running them a bath, buying them flowers, giving them a hug each morning. 
  3. Have the courage to be yourself with your partner

Fun and Play

  1. Focus on bringing excitement into your relationship.
  2. Seek shared activities which bring fun and joy to you both.
  3. Acknowledge what is already good and brings joy to your lives together.  Gratitude practise

Life Planning

  1. Put time aside to formulate your dreams and write your goals.
  2. Be open to discussing your goals frequently to help arrive at a share understanding.
  3. Plan different areas of your life together; work and study, social and family; play and hobbies; solitude and intimacy; financial; spiritual or religious.

Teamwork and Partnership

  1. Work regularly and constructively on actioning your goals.
  2. Show loyalty, support and respect.
  3. Practice mindfulness. Grow awareness of yourself and your partner.


We write regularly in more detail on each of these topic areas plus others. Please visit our blog to read more.

For more in-depth support, we really encourage you to try the Couplet program. Through over 20 years of working with couples in our psychology practise, we have created a structure for you to develop your relationship from whatever stage or phase it is at. By setting time aside, coming together and working through the program you will be able to follow the structure in order to learn more about yourself, your partner and your relationship. You will also be given the tools to grow your awareness, to see more clearly the strengths and weaknesses of your relationship and be guided on becoming more skilful at developing your dreams and plans that are achievable for your life together, at the same time as continuing to nurture and grow your relationship